Fridays - Natural Vision with Verna Steele

COMMITTED TO LOVE

I was given an opportunity to facilitated a Re affirmation (wedding vow renewal) ceremony on October 23^rd. This event consisted of 23 couples. All of which were black and the number of years married ranged from 1-36yrs, with the majority over 15yrs. The entire process of putting it together was overwhelming yet exciting. The end result was priceless and well worth the challenge of making it happen. The minister that facilitated the ceremony came from very familiar passages of scripture.

• When a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor with God Pr.18:22
• Therefore a man shall leave his Father and mother cleave unto his wife Gen 2:24
• Wife submit yourself to your own husband as you do unto the Lord and it goes on to say Husband love your wife like Christ loves the church Ref to :Eph 5:22-25

These scriptures are commonly used in these settings however, in this particular ceremony a greater emphasis on what love is not. Those words were life altering for me especially being one that has based so many decisions from a feeling, from an emotional place, one sided expectations and ultimately I found myself hurt and confused about what happen, what did I miss. Now, I realize that it was a place of self deception. My emotions, feelings and own desires.

He stated that “ LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, IT’S A COMMITMENT” he went on to say that if we based OUR ability and ones capacity to love; on a feeling than we are headed for great disappointment, because feelings change from one moment to the next. That was a moment of truth; I believe that when we are presented with truth the responsibility to apply it is just as important as our next breath. We must be willing to put in the work to see it to the finish no matter what.

Commitment: RESPONSIBILITY, LOYALTY, PREVIOUSLY PLANNED, HONOR, AND FULFILL.

How do you define love?

Is it an action word?

Does Love have limitation?

PS. I would be doing you an injustice if I didn’t mention one important key.

God is love; he’s the greatest, purest example of love. Without him abiding in the heart of man, man can’t love himself, and if he can’t love himself, than he can’t love you and vice versa, meditate on these things

Love you much –

V